Be a better person

One of the 12 steps to recovery is to apologize, to the people that you have hurt while using. Apologies can be a difficult thing, I’m not sure why, we are simply acknowledging our faults. We are human, we all have them, but it can be so difficult to admit to them. If this is the case for you then at least be a better person. Actions can and do speak louder than words. If it is too much for you to really dig deep into yourself and say I’m sorry, then don’t say it, show it.

Through my years of addiction I have generated a lot of bad feelings towards me, and I can’t blame the people I have offended for having those feelings. For instance, in my drunken, high moments I have unleashed Satan’s hatred to my parents, especially my dad. Now as a sober individual we have a great relationship, you might even say we are good friends. I never offered a formal apology, although there are times that I feel I should I always let my devil win that argument. I do not want to ruin conditions with an awkward apology bringing up the past. He has never brought it up and I have accepted my role as a changed person.

Of course this will not always hold true, there are cases where relationships are too damaged to just pick up over time as the other party sees your changes, maybe the only time you spent with the party was while using and that is all they know of you. In this case an apology is probably going to be required, but if swallowing your pride is the cost of sobriety, it is totally worth it.

Whether your apology is to be assumed or you feel prompted to deliver a formal, verbal apology, just apologize. You owe it to yourself, and you owe it to your victims. Not everybody will accept your apology, and that’s ok too, maybe it is not their time to heal yet. Just work on you, and only worry about what you can change.

Give Back

It has been a while since my last post, and I do apologize. With all my time I was not writing, I did get time to reflect. I realized that one of the best things a person can do to stay sober is to give back to the community.

Service is so much more than doing a free job for somebody that you may never see, don’t look at it like that. Instead look at the happiness that comes with it, not only for the person you are serving, but for yourself as well. Simply changing your outlook on service from a chore to a pleasure can make it all the more fun.

Service is a great way to give back to the community and lift your spirits.

You know the feeling you get when you make someone smile? I promise it is intensified greatly when you create tears of joy (way better than the tears you used to create). If you don’t believe me test it for yourself, start small. It doesn’t take much, find somebody that really needs the help, and make their life just a little easier. Give a homeless person one of your old jackets, your going to throw it out anyway, see how much it means to somebody that can’t afford one. If you get creative there are several acts of service that almost anybody can do, that will cost almost nothing, and the reward of making another human being happy is unexplainable.

Next time you are going to toss something out, just ask yourself who could benefit from it, and let your emotions guide you. You never know, you might be the person that restores faith in humanity, just make sure you don’t do it with expectations, you will disappoint yourself. Good deeds were never meant to go noticed in this life.your reward will be in the next.