Give Back

It has been a while since my last post, and I do apologize. With all my time I was not writing, I did get time to reflect. I realized that one of the best things a person can do to stay sober is to give back to the community.

Service is so much more than doing a free job for somebody that you may never see, don’t look at it like that. Instead look at the happiness that comes with it, not only for the person you are serving, but for yourself as well. Simply changing your outlook on service from a chore to a pleasure can make it all the more fun.

Service is a great way to give back to the community and lift your spirits.

You know the feeling you get when you make someone smile? I promise it is intensified greatly when you create tears of joy (way better than the tears you used to create). If you don’t believe me test it for yourself, start small. It doesn’t take much, find somebody that really needs the help, and make their life just a little easier. Give a homeless person one of your old jackets, your going to throw it out anyway, see how much it means to somebody that can’t afford one. If you get creative there are several acts of service that almost anybody can do, that will cost almost nothing, and the reward of making another human being happy is unexplainable.

Next time you are going to toss something out, just ask yourself who could benefit from it, and let your emotions guide you. You never know, you might be the person that restores faith in humanity, just make sure you don’t do it with expectations, you will disappoint yourself. Good deeds were never meant to go noticed in this life.your reward will be in the next.

Be accepting

This one goes out to those of you who are watching a loved one struggle with addiction. We have all said it a ton of times, don’t judge a person because we don’t know what they have been through. That is easier said than done, especially when we have been hurt, lied to, betrayed so many times, but it is necessary for recovery. Don’t enable their addiction, simply understand it.

While I believe that interventions have their place, I also believe that if you are not careful they can do more harm than good. Let me be up front in saying that I have never sat in front of a panel of friends and family telling me I need to fix my life, I can say I have sat in front of plenty of individuals who wanted the best for me telling me the same things. Here is the problem I see (at least in my own situation), an addict is not in their right state of mind.

I began my addiction looking for somebody to accept me for who I was, I never found that so I started doing the things that the “cool” kids were doing, and it got me their acceptance. Your beloved addicts want to be accepted, and in their depressed state when you tell them that they are destroying their life, they are more than likely hearing how they screwed up again. Love them, they already know they need help, be there to pick them up when they relapse. They are probably in this mess because they at some point did not feel loved, and that is a tough wall to break down.

I have mentioned already how much my parents had done for me in my recovery, what I have not mentioned though is how they never mentioned my meth addiction. They knew I had it, and they would advise me to stop drinking, but for whatever reason when I was on meth, they never brought it up. I believe that if they had told me once again how I needed to fix myself, I probably would have never got clean.

At the end if the day your addict is still a good person, they care, they made a bad choice that is consuming their mind, what they need is to know that you still love them despite their problem. They need to know that you don’t condone their actions, but you understand where they are. If you don’t understand, you will get a lot further with them if you try to see them the way Christ would.